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    Most of us love seeing the calendar roll over to December 1st each year. It’s the end of the previous year, and also high time for the holidays. No matter which holiday you may recognize and honor, there’s an additional common thread that connects us all regardless of religion: Stress. When expectations mount, and your daily task list nearly doubles, it’s perfectly normal to scale back and prioritize which things truly matter. When you’re also in the role as a caregiver for a loved one, it can be particularly important to try and simplify events and manage to maintain your health an sanity. Here are some suggestions we found at AARP, which we really like. Long live the Potluck!

    Here are a dozen ways to adjust your holiday expectations and celebrations:

    1. Fill your tank first: We don’t expect our cars to run on empty and we can’t either. Find quick ways to fill your own tank, like making time for a terrific peppermint mocha or a visit with friends. Or maybe it’s a good night’s sleep or a day to yourself.

    2. Line up someone to listen: It really does help to express our fears, stress and frustration to another. A friend or family member can play this role, or you can contact a local or online caregiver support group.

    3. Adjust holiday meals: I’ve found that purchasing most of the food, making just a few favorite family recipes, takes less time and clean up is a snap. We’ve also gone out to a restaurant for holiday meals when we need a distraction from grief and stress.

    4. Cut back on the decorations: I’ve scaled back the number of decorations, displaying only the ones that are most meaningful. I’ve also paid others to help me or invited friends over for a decorating party.

    5. Be flexible with shopping and gift giving: Try shopping online or making a list and asking someone else to do the shopping and/or mail packages for you. Arrange for someone to help loved ones shop if it would make them happy to give you a present too!

    6. Invite holiday visitors: Ask family or friends to come over to help lift your spirits and infuse energy. If hosting feels overwhelming, arrange to meet at a coffee shop or cafe or plan a video chat.

    7. Limit the festivities: Give yourself permission to cut back on your role and the number and location of holiday activities. My Dad was in the hospital over Christmas one year so we ate, sang and opened presents right there.

    8. Find a travel companion: Line up someone to drive or ride along and help you out with your loved one. Also plan ahead for the weather, time of day, where to park or unload the car and how to handle stairs and restroom needs.

    9. Get respite: Even if you don’t normally have help caring for your loved ones, this might be a good time to arrange for care for them. You’ll have more time to unwind and focus on holiday tasks. Plan fun holiday activities for them so you feel better about leaving.

    10. Start a new tradition: It’s hard to let go of a tradition when loved ones are gone or can’t participate, so start a new one. For example, when it became too difficult for my Dad to go to church on Christmas Eve, we began singing carols together at home instead.

    11. Don’t forget tomorrow: We put a lot of energy in the build-up to the holidays, but often forget that we’ll need help putting away decorations and cleaning. Also think ahead about support and fun activities to do with loved ones to ward off the post-holiday blues.

    12. Stop, breathe, feel the joy: It’s easy to get caught up in the holiday frenzy. Being mindful of joyful moments magnifies our precious time with loved ones. Savor them.


    Dawn
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