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  • Caregiver Guilt and Tips to Better Cope


    In a recent article, it’s estimated that on average an informal caregiver is most often a woman aged 47-49. As a rule, the time investment per informal caregiver is twenty hours per week. If we add that to the existing 40-hour workweek, it’s completely reasonable that over time, burnout and stress would take hold and being to affect the mind, body, and spirit.

    The percentage of adult children providing personal care and/or financial assistance to a parent has more than tripled over the past 15 years.

    91% of adult child caregivers are daughters who work full time and are married or live with a partner.

    22% of caregiving sons and daughters report dealing with guilt multiple times a day.

    The guilt that seems to almost effortlessly accompany caregiving, is incredibly common. For those who carry the psychic weight of wondering if they are doing enough; the answer is you are. Here are a few perspectives and tips to keep in mind when things get hard and time seems to never be on your side:

    · Show yourself compassion. All that love and kindness you have for your care recipient – give some to yourself. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can. And that’s ok.

    · Forgive yourself. You’re not perfect. Sometimes you’ll be exhausted or grumpy, and sometimes you just need a break. All that is normal and totally forgivable. It’s worth repeating – you’re not perfect. You are human.

    · Establish priorities. It’s not possible to do everything, so you’ll have to make some choices. What are your caregiving strengths? Prioritize tasks in those areas so you’re not putting an extra drain on yourself by trying to do things you’re not that good at. Talk with your employer about caregiving if you need flexibility.

    · Ask for help: Call a friend and say, “I’m going through a hard time. Do you have a few minutes just to listen?” Have a family meeting and say, “Our lives have been a lot different since grandma got sick. I’m spending more time with her. Let’s figure out together how we’ll get everything done.”

    · Revisit and reinvent the “Ideal You”: You made the best choices based on your resources and knowledge at the time. As you look to the future, you can create a refined vision of the “Ideal You.” What legacy do you want to leave? What values do you hold dear? Then, when you wake up in the morning and put on your clothes, imagine dressing the “Ideal You.” Let this reinvented “Ideal You” make those moment-to-moment choices that create your legacy.

    We know it’s rough, and we’re here to help. When things overwhelm you, we provide qualified and reliable Home Health caregivers on a respite basis when you need it. There is no shame in needing a break, One Solution Home Care can provide you with the peace of mind you need when you need it the most.

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